Perhaps one of the most difficult moments for any adoptive family is the moment when the adopted child must be told that he or she is adopted. However there are some strategies that can be employed to make the conversation go as smoothly as possible.
-I spoke to my cousin, Sam, who was adopted at just a few months old from an orphanage in India about her adoption and finding out that she is adopted. She said that she has always known that she is adopted. It is something that was told to her at a young age and has always been discussed in a very casual tone. She went on to say that it is this sense of normalness that has never made her feel that she is adopted. Her adoption is mentioned as being just another event in their lives, but nothing
that should make her feel any different from other children.
-She encourages other adoptive parents to be open and honest with their children from a young age and continue to treat them like any other child. “Don’t treat them any differently,” she said, “Don’t feel like you can’t yell at them and don’t spoil them just because they are adopted. Treat them exactly how you would if they were your own.”
The open and honest communication between Sam and her parents has lead her to be completely comfortable with her adoption and to be very thankful for the life that she has been given. She feels “blessed” for what she has and hopes that it can be a model for other adoptive parents and children.
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